
I do not engage in active messaging with clients whom I have never met in person and with whom I have had no real-life contact. Experience shows that people who write excessively from the very beginning, try too hard to charm, display exaggerated politeness, helpfulness, and attempt to move the conversation into a personal or “friendly” space are, as a rule, not serious or genuine clients.
They are not specifically interested in me — they are willing to waste time on anyone, simply looking for a suitable “target.” Yes, I consider pointless phone calls and endless conversations a waste of valuable time.
Most often, such individuals are not seeking a meeting or professional interaction, but rather attention, emotional engagement, and ongoing communication. They distract from truly important matters, demand time, and tend to take offense when they do not receive constant responses. In the end, they either never reach an actual meeting or do so only after long, meaningless stages of communication that I am not willing to invest my time in.
For this reason, I do not respond warmly to excessive playfulness, overdone courtesy, or attempts to build closeness through texting or phone conversations. Such behavior rarely reflects real intent or a serious attitude. My experience clearly shows that people like this seldom bring anything constructive or valuable into my life.
I would like to clarify that this is my work — one part of my life.
Alongside my work, I have another life: friends, family, rest, and personal time. This is a separate and equally important part of my life. I do not mix these two spheres, nor do I consider either of them less significant or less deserving of attention.
In some aspects, I behave the same way in both areas — I am honest, polite, respectful, and fair. However, in other aspects, my behavior is fundamentally different. I cannot offer warmth or emotional closeness to everyone who seeks it. That is simply not possible.
If I don’t call you “baby” and don’t get excited about your calls, it’s not because I don’t like you. It’s because I am acting professionally.
You want me to behave professionally, right?
Not calling you in the middle of the night, not asking you to come rescue me when I get a flat tire on the road, not texting you while I’m drunk… correct?
Then let’s both keep this professional.
